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Akoby \u017eenu ignoroval.","datePublished":"2017-04-09","dateModified":"2017-04-09","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.absat.sk\/author\/#Person","name":"","url":"https:\/\/www.absat.sk\/author\/","identifier":1,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/b70ca3e57a61efa655568ea1bab21ec867ae74beaf8b182b9ca53fe6fcb8cee7?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/b70ca3e57a61efa655568ea1bab21ec867ae74beaf8b182b9ca53fe6fcb8cee7?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"absat.sk","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"\/logo.png","url":"\/logo.png","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/www.absat.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/img_a280943_w2015_t1496959567.jpg","url":"https:\/\/www.absat.sk\/wp-content\/uploads\/img_a280943_w2015_t1496959567.jpg","height":0,"width":0},"url":"https:\/\/www.absat.sk\/opakom-lasky-je-lahostajnost\/","wordCount":680,"articleBody":"Vo vz\u0165ahu sa ve\u013emi \u010dasto st\u00e1va, \u017ee mu\u017e nenaberie odvahu a\u00a0rad\u0161ej ml\u010d\u00ed, a\u00a0to pr\u00e1ve v\u00a0t\u00fdch k\u013e\u00fa\u010dov\u00fdch okamihoch, kedy by mal nie\u010do poveda\u0165. Akoby \u017eenu ignoroval. \u017dena sa vz\u00e1p\u00e4t\u00ed za\u010dne c\u00edti\u0165 nevidite\u013en\u00e1 a\u00a0jej sebavedomie kles\u00e1. Zneistie a\u00a0potom pr\u00eddu v\u00fd\u010ditky. Vtedy sa u\u017e chlap odhodl\u00e1 a\u00a0vyjadr\u00ed sa. V\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou ju v\u0161ak len nech\u00e1pal spr\u00e1vnea\u00a0h\u00e1dka \u201eje na svete\u201c. Nenadobudnite dojem, \u017ee mu\u017e je nech\u00e1pav\u00fd! Mu\u017ei v\u0161eobecne s\u00fa inteligentn\u00ed, siln\u00ed a\u00a0ch\u00e1pav\u00ed, ale faktom zost\u00e1va, \u017ee ch\u00e1pu diametr\u00e1lne in\u00e1\u010d ako \u017eeny!!\tPre\u010do sa partneri navz\u00e1jom nevidia tak\u00ed, ak\u00ed naozaj s\u00fa?\tVz\u0165ahy s\u00fa dokonal\u00e9 v\u00a0ich nedokonalostiach.H\u00e1dky s\u00fa prospe\u0161n\u00e9 a\u00a0ur\u010dite nie zbyto\u010dn\u00e9! Partner je na\u0161im zrkadlom. Aj ke\u010f konflikt skon\u010d\u00ed rozchodom, v\u017edy n\u00e1s nie\u010do nau\u010d\u00ed.\tVid\u00edme probl\u00e9m a\u00a0m\u00f4\u017eeme ho eliminova\u0165. Najd\u00f4le\u017eitej\u0161ie je odpustenie. Podmienkou v\u0161ak zost\u00e1va, \u017ee vo vz\u0165ahu mus\u00ed by\u0165 pr\u00edtomn\u00e1 l\u00e1ska. Ak po \u201eudobren\u00ed\u201c s\u00a0partnerom nec\u00edtime l\u00e1sku, alebo dokonca c\u00edtime krivdu, nie\u010do sme nepochopili. Treba znovu nazbiera\u0165 tzv. \u201evz\u0165ahov\u00fd kredit\u201c (pekn\u00e9 spolo\u010dn\u00e9 z\u00e1\u017eitky, z\u00e1ujmy, romantiku…), potom nabra\u0165 dych a\u00a0jemne pokra\u010dova\u0165 v h\u013eadan\u00ed odpoved\u00ed na mnoh\u00e9 na\u0161e ot\u00e1zniky.\tAj ke\u010f sa \u013eudia \u010dasto sna\u017eia l\u00e1sku \u201esp\u00fata\u0165\u201c a\u00a0\u201eods\u00fadi\u0165\u201c, nie je to mo\u017en\u00e9. M\u00e1 vlastn\u00e9 tempo, vlastn\u00e9 unik\u00e1tne cesti\u010dky. Myln\u00e1 domnienka ja t\u00e1, ktor\u00e1 tvrd\u00ed, \u017ee opakom l\u00e1sky je nen\u00e1vis\u0165. Nen\u00e1vis\u0165 je taktie\u017e cit! Opakom l\u00e1sky je \u013eahostajnos\u0165.Mu\u017ei bohu\u017eia\u013e \u010dasto b\u00fdvaj\u00fa chladn\u00ed k\u00a0svojim polovi\u010dk\u00e1m, a\u00a0to napriek tomu, \u017ee ich miluj\u00fa. Ako je to mo\u017en\u00e9? Pr\u00ed\u010dinou je tlak (\u010dasto aj zo strany z\u00fafalej \u017eeny). \u010ci u\u017e je tento tlak zapr\u00ed\u010dinen\u00fd stresom v\u00a0robote, rodinn\u00fdmi nezhodami alebo in\u00fdmi faktormi, stane sa ob\u010das,\u017ee mu\u017ea vz\u0165ah fyzicky a\u00a0psychicky vy\u010derp\u00e1 a\u00a0nem\u00e1 silu rie\u0161i\u0165 e\u0161te aj konflikt doma.Darmo je \u017eena siln\u00e1, empatick\u00e1 a\u00a0starostliv\u00e1 a\u00a0darmo sa o\u00a0to pok\u00fa\u0161a aj \u201eOn\u201c! Pokia\u013e si nerozumej\u00fa a\u00a0nemaj\u00fa vytvoren\u00e9 tie spr\u00e1vne komunika\u010dn\u00e9 kan\u00e1ly, doch\u00e1dza k\u00a0naozaj ne\u010dakan\u00fdm zvratom.Mu\u017e a\u00a0\u017eena si zvykn\u00fa myslie\u0165 to, \u017ee si U\u017d ROZUMEJ\u00da \u2013 a\u00a0pr\u00e1ve to je kame\u0148 \u00farazu. Nezaspite na vavr\u00ednoch! Iste, ani jeden z\u00a0partnerov nemus\u00ed by\u0165 v\u00a0n\u00e1ro\u010dnej situ\u00e1cii odoln\u00fd a\u00a0v\u0161etko zvl\u00e1da\u0165. M\u00e1me pr\u00e1vo na omyly! Je v\u0161ak v\u00a0na\u0161ej moci predch\u00e1dza\u0165 im. Mu\u017e by sa mohol nau\u010di\u0165 neb\u00e1\u0165 sa po\u017eiada\u0165 o\u00a0pomoc a\u00a0vyjadri\u0165 \u017eene, \u010do m\u00e1 na mysli a\u00a0\u017eena by sa mala nau\u010di\u0165 \u201espr\u00e1vne hovori\u0165\u201c. V\u00a0tom zmysle, aby sa vyjadrovala presne tak, ako chce, aby to jej chlap pochopil.Pov\u00e4\u010d\u0161ine toti\u017e nie je dom\u00fd\u0161\u013eav\u00ed, tak ako \u017eena, \u010do je jeho prednos\u0165ou a\u00a0z\u00e1rove\u0148 nedostatkom.V\u00fdre\u010dnos\u0165 a\u00a0vynaliezavos\u0165 v\u00a0podobe domnienok m\u00f4\u017ee niekedy (u\u00a0\u017eeny, aj u\u00a0mu\u017ea) sp\u00f4sobi\u0165 fat\u00e1lne myln\u00e9 uz\u00e1very!Aj ke\u010f sa \u017eena nem\u00fdli, je to relat\u00edvne.\u00a0 Mu\u017e toti\u017e m\u00f4\u017ee ma\u0165 v\u00a0hlave implikovan\u00fd \u00faplne in\u00fd vzorec z\u00a0minulosti. Vid\u00ed ju tak\u00fa, za ak\u00fa ju pova\u017eoval vtedy. A\u00a0\u017eena podobne. Mysl\u00ed si, \u017ee je niekto in\u00fd ako ten, do ktor\u00e9ho sa zamilovala.Mu\u017ei dok\u00e1\u017eu by\u0165 krut\u00ed a\u00a0neuvedomuj\u00fa si to. Nie s\u00fa ani hl\u00fapi, ani zl\u00ed, ale nespr\u00e1vne \u017eenu ch\u00e1pu, \u010do nie je zapr\u00ed\u010dinen\u00e9 v\u00fdlu\u010dne ich vinou. Ka\u017ed\u00e1 \u017eena dok\u00e1\u017ee by\u0165 nato\u013eko vynaliezav\u00e1, aby na\u0161la \u201eknow how\u201c ako so svojim\u00a0mu\u017eom komunikova\u0165. Jej \u00falohou je, aby ani v\u00a0\u0165a\u017ek\u00fdch chv\u00ed\u013each nestr\u00e1cala svoju tv\u00e1r a\u00a0bola aj na\u010falej empatickou a\u00a0jemnou.Preto\u017ee; \u201eSlovo je \u017eena, \u010din je mu\u017e\u201c. (Herbert Madinger)                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                "},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Opakom l\u00e1sky je \u013eahostajnos\u0165","item":"https:\/\/www.absat.sk\/opakom-lasky-je-lahostajnost\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]